Testimonial - Kate Wright - August 2020
"It's taken some time to unpack the impact of my family constellation session with you. First of all I wanted to thank you for the work you do, even though I felt unsure of what I was looking for and what our session would be like, through out I felt the strength and wisdom of your presence and capacity which allowed me to just let go and trust the process. I have felt deep shifts since, I knew at the time I was ready for internal change but this session really was the catalyst and allowed me to step into a new sense of knowing and my place in the world. thankyou Rosey, I will be back to see you again soon."
Group Family Constellations
Every third Sunday of the month from 16th August – 20th December
AEST 3pm ( 2 hours )
If you are feeling uncertain about having your own Constellation, I invite you to watch some of the Constellations on my Youtube channel.
Make a cuppa as each one goes for approx 1 hour.
The Relationchips Constellation program
Example
A client came to see me because she was uncomfortable being touched by anyone other than her mum or dad. It was affecting friendships as she would recoil from friendly hugs and connection and it was preventing her from having any kind of intimate relationship.
We start by taking the family history ( on both sides ) capturing as much information as is known that could be key. In this instance it was revealed that her paternal great grandmother was sexually abused during WWII both the great grandmother and her grandma struggled with physical contact.
Here we see that out of blind love for her Great Grandmother, this client also recoils from physical contact. We placed the client, her father, his mother and her mother. The client bowed to her grandmother and great grandmother and said, “ I see how hard it was for you and how you became afraid of physical contact after you were raped. Out of my love for you I don’t enjoy physical contact either. This is affecting my life and friendships and blocking the opportunity for intimate love.”
We then placed many many generations of strong women from the family behind the Great Grandmother and then the client gave back the fear of physical contact to her.
Client “ What happened to you was not ok, but I am carrying it for you and it is not mine – I leave this with you now, please feel all the strong women in our family lineage supporting you and please look kindly on me Great Grandma and Grandma as I face my life and welcome friendly, caring physical contact and the opportunity for a loving physical relationship into my life”
The great grandmother was very happy to take back the fear of physical contact. The client turned to face her life and felt the support of her Grandmother, Great Grandmother and all the generations of strong women behind her”.
When a client has had a constellation the affects can be immediate or can unfold in them and their family system for up to two years.
This particular client experienced a change in her reactions to physical contact in that very week and 8 moths later was able to enjoy a loving intimate relationship.
Biological science is catching up with Psychotherapy and Phenomenological therapy - Some more technical information in case you are interested !
The history you share with your family begins before you are even conceived. In your earliest biological form, as an unfertilized egg, you already share a cellular environment with your mother and grandmother. When your grandmother was five months pregnant with your mother, the precursor cell of the egg you developed from was already present in your mother’s ovaries. This means that before your mother was even born, your mother, your grandmother, and the earliest traces of you were all in the same body—three generations sharing the same biological environment.
This isn’t a new idea: embryology textbooks have told us as much for more than a century. Your inception can be similarly traced in your paternal line. The precursor cells of the sperm you developed from were present in your father when he was a foetus in his mother’s womb. With what we’re now learning, from the Yehuda studies and others, about the ways stress can be inherited, we can begin to map out how the biological residue of traumas your grandmother experienced can be passed down, with far-reaching consequences. Additionally the cell biologist Bruce Lipton shows that our DNA can be affected by both negative and positive thoughts, beliefs, and emotions.
It follows then that we carry at least three generations of trauma and wisdom in our DNA. If you are adopted, fostered or similar I have found that you also belong to the family soul you were adopted into: this means an additional burden and honour.... you then have 4 sets of family lines where you may carry a connection with ancestors.
[1] Wolynn, Mark. It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle (p. 25). Penguin Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.